dos and don'ts of a blessed person

The Dos and Don’ts of a Blessed person (From Psalm 1)

Have you ever heard of the statement ‘too blessed to be stressed?’ I know people who say this and I’ve always wondered at the confidence that they have in calling themselves ‘blessed’.  So, do you think of yourself or call yourself blessed?

Or, are you waiting for your life to be perfect first then you can think of yourself as blessed?

You see when your life is not where you think it’s supposed to be especially with regards to material possessions, you hesitate to call yourself ‘blessed’. It’s easy to think you will be blessed once you have that big house, dream job or career, magic amount in your bank account (anyone dreaming of becoming a millionaire one day like me?), dream car, degree, perfect home, taking dream vacations, perfect husband and child. Or maybe you think you will be blessed when you yourself become ‘perfect’?

Newsflash: If you think the only definition of a blessed person is a rich person, think again.

According to Psalm 1 there is certain Dos and Don’ts of a blessed person:

Well, thank the heavens that God’s definition of a ‘blessed’ person is much better than the perfect life we think we need. I hope after reading it together and understanding it better, you and l can also be comfortable to say we are blessed.

Let’s start with the Don’ts, shall we?

The Don’ts of a blessed man:

1. Don’t follow ungodly people:

Psalm 1v1a. ‘Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly’

  • To walk with someone is to be in agreement when it comes to the direction of where you are going. To walk with someone is to follow them. It’s taking the advice of those the Bible says are ungodly- a person who doesn’t know God, honour God or cares what God says.
  • So what does this mean? Check your physical friends. Check their advice-does it bring you closer to God or further from God? Check your online ‘friends’. Because in this day and age, we have more ‘online’ friends that physical. Who do you follow on social media?
  • Despite what you may think, you can be influenced by someone ‘online’ and deem what they say, wear and do acceptable even though it may not be in line with God’s word. You will go the same way as those who you listen to, so check your friends–both physical and online.

2. Don’t stand in the path of sinners

Psalm 1:1b. ‘Nor stands in the path of sinners’

  • To stand is to be still without movement. When we do what our ungodly friends do and say, we stand in their path-we are a stumbling block to them knowing Jesus and to their salvation. If they can influence us and we can’t influence them, then how can we make them believe in the power of the God we serve?
  • Now we may say ‘Well we are all sinners, right’. No, wrong. The truth is once you accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour, you are no longer a sinner in God’s eyes.
  • His Word declares us to be righteous. 2 Corinthians 5:21 says, ‘For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him’ In the context of this verse a sinner is someone who has not accepted Jesus as his Saviour, someone who practices sins, someone who deliberately disobeys God’s word.

3. Don’t sit in the seat of the scornful

Psalm 1: 1c. ‘Nor sits in the seat of the scornful ‘

What is to sit? It’s to remain in a certain position or state, to adopt.  And to sit with a scornful person is to spend time with someone who doesn’t believe there is a God and adopting their ways and words.

Think of it as a journey.  Imagine going to visit a friend at her house.  When you arrive, you walk into their house ,then you stand and then you sit on the chair or couch right.

Similarly here a blessed man doesn’t:

  1. Walk-You start by walking with an ungodly friend, listening to their advice which is contrary to God’s word, taking it all in
  2. Stand-Then you stand with them and become a stumbling block to their salvation
  3. Sit-Finally you sit with them. You remain with them in their sinfulness and disobedience to God. You are now in their world, a sinful world where God doesn’t want you to be in.

So what does a blessed man do?

The DO’s of a Blessed man:

1. Do spend time in God’s word

Psalm 1:2a ‘But His delight is the Law of the Lord’

  • A blessed man takes great pleasure, gets excited about their time with God. Not just going to a church service but taking pleasure in spending daily time with God. We ought to take great pleasure in God’s Law-which is His word and teaching.
  • This can be through prayer, reading God’s word, listening to sermons, reading Christian books or listening to worship music. It’s spending most of your time engaging in activities that grow your relationship with God.

2. Do think about His Word all day long 

Psalm 1:2b: And in His law he mediates on day and night

  • If you’ve seen a person in love, then you know they can literally meditate on their crush or loved one. They can spend every waking moment thinking about that person, longing to be with them and even lose focus at school or work. I’ve been there and l know you may have been there too.
  • In the same way, a blessed man meditates and spends time thinking about God’s word when they are awake and even at night. They eat the Word every single day. And they do it because they love God. And the people you love, you want to spend time with and want to know better.

And what is the biggest benefits of being a blessed man?

You will succeed:

Psalm 1: 3 ‘He shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that brings forth its fruit in season, whose leaf shall not wither, and whatever He does shall prosper’

A tree planted by the water:

  • Is always green, it bears fruit all year round
  • It’s never lacking even in a season of drought it’s still fruitful
  • Even if the tree grows old and dies, it regenerates (it’s logs that fall into the water can be a great habitat for fish)

Like a tree planted by water our success will come in the same way: We will have joy and peace in God and we will bear fruit even in seasons of drought or difficulties. Better yet, even when we die one day, our legacy of loving God’s word will not die with us. It will have impacted our families, friends and those around us.

But what happens to the ungodly man?

Psalm 1:4 ‘But the ungodly are not so, but are like chaff which the wind drives away’. Chaff is a worthless, meaningless substance and God’s word reminds us in 1 John 2: 17 ‘And the world is passing away, and the lust of it but he who does the will of God abides forever’

In the end, the blessed man knows that following the world and all in it will only end in destruction.

Ok, so what action can you take today?

1.Check your friends-both physical and online

  • Unfollow the people on social media that may be hindering you from following God or with views and lifestyles that are contrary to God’s word. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you if you are not sure where to start. I had to do this exercise a few months ago and it was not easy, but it was worth it!
  • Now if you have non-Christian friends (I know I do), share the Gospel with them, share your beliefs about God, invite them to church. Live a life that represents God to them. Let them know where you stand on your beliefs, don’t leave it to chance. Spend less time with those friends and more time with godly friends. Christian friends will encourage you to spend more time in God’s word.
  • Learn from Jesus. While He spent time with sinners, he was preaching to them. But his focus and where He poured out his life was on His 12 disciples who shared His faith.

2. Read the Word of God daily

Delight yourself in God’s Word and meditate upon it. I highly recommend downloading the YouVersion Bible app-it has totally changed the way l consume God’s word.

3. Remember the benefits

We all want to be successful in life. Hundreds of books have been written on how to become successful. But here in Psalm 1 lies the secret. So, remember it when the temptation of linking blessing to only material wealth tugs at your heart.

Have a mental vision of a tree planted by the riverside which is evergreen even in times of drought and difficulties. That’s the kind of life God promises for those who dwell in His Word.

4. Take a leaf from the life Job

Psalm 1 starts right after the book of Job. Now Job was a man most of us would have considered blessed -he was the richest man in his part of town and he had a ‘perfect family’.  But that’s not all. Job also feared God and shunned evil. For Him, his relationship with God is what mattered more. Because after all the wealth and family was taken away, he still praised God. Now that’s a blessed man, for sure!

My encouragement to you

If you do all the above actions continuously, and it becomes a habit (remember the goal is not perfection but becoming transformed to be more like Jesus) you will, be confident and sure that you are blessed and even ‘too blessed to be stressed’ because your trust is in God and His Word whether the material possessions come or not.

Let’s Pray:

Heavenly Father, thank you for your definition of a blessed person, a definition which is real and achievable through your grace. Thank you that there is a reward for me when I choose to delight in Your word and meditate upon it.  Help me to have a perspective that focuses on Your Word and not on this world which is passing away.

In Jesus’ name l pray. Amen.

I would love to know if you think of yourself as blessed? Leave your comment below.

The qualities of a blessed person


  1. Louisa

    February 8, 2019 at 3:19 pm

    The greatest misconception amongst us Christians is that we quantify financial wealth to mean God’s blessings!

    “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all other things will be added to you”

    1. Tinashe Jaricha

      February 8, 2019 at 5:17 pm

      That’s so true. I love that verse.

  2. Clarissa

    February 11, 2019 at 3:01 am

    You gave me something to dive into. I admit I look at what I have or don’t have as a determination of whether I’m blessed or not. I know in my head that is not the case. Although I have read this passage many times I have not looked at it the way you described in your post. I will be reading with a different understanding. I enjoyed reading it!

    1. Tinashe Jaricha

      February 11, 2019 at 6:14 am

      Thank you so much. Praise God that the truth in God’s word gives us revelation and understanding.

  3. Belinda Mweneziko

    February 11, 2019 at 4:14 am

    I have been answered,the was a time when i thought that i was not blessed,i would look at my life and wonder….i thought being blessed was having all earthly riches,thank you for this great revelation.This is awesome Tinashe,keep up the good work.May the Lord keep revealing more things to you,so that you can teach n guide many people out there.God bless you dear

    1. Tinashe Jaricha

      February 11, 2019 at 6:13 am

      Thank you so much. And you are very right, we need to constantly view our beliefs in light of the truth which is God’s word. And the truth does set us free indeed.

  4. Colleen

    February 28, 2019 at 4:52 pm

    You really hit the nail on the head about unfollowing people. I recently unfollowed Mark Hamill after learning that he pushed for the abortion of his granddaughter.

    1. Tinashe Jaricha

      March 3, 2019 at 8:12 pm

      Thanks for sharing Colleen. I believe God wants us to act according to our faith.

  5. Annette V

    February 28, 2019 at 7:11 pm

    lovely balance between the don’t and the do’s. Good to be reminded. 🙂

    1. Tinashe Jaricha

      March 3, 2019 at 8:10 pm

      Thank you Annette!

  6. Katie

    March 1, 2019 at 4:30 am

    This is such a great post! I love that you gave next steps to take. Spending time in God’s word daily is what I know he is calling me to do!

    1. Tinashe Jaricha

      March 3, 2019 at 8:13 pm

      Thanks Katie. I’m right there with you on that one.

  7. Jasmine Hewitt

    March 1, 2019 at 2:50 pm

    i love this. many people have misconceptions about what blessings are

    1. Tinashe Jaricha

      March 3, 2019 at 8:14 pm

      Thank you Jasmine. So very true.

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